Saturday, April 2, 2011

There's nothing like the understanding of another Infertile

I don't think I have been quiet about my appreciation for everyone who reads this blog, hugs me when I cry, listens to me vent, etc. etc.  But for those of you out there that are Infertiles, you know what I am talking about when I say this.  There is NOTHING like the understanding/support/care that you receive from another Infertile.  N-O-T-H-I-N-G!  I appreciate you guys more than you can ever know.

I'm sure this can be said for a lot of things out there.  Business owners appreciate other business owner's trials.  Cancer patients and survivors understand better what it means to have Cancer than just someone watching on the sidelines.  Someone who has lost a parent/sibling/child probably identifies better with someone who has also been through that.  And Infertiles are no different.

When someone tells me they are an Infertile, my entire view of them changes in about half a second.  I'm standing in their shoes and I know what they have been through, because I have been there.  It makes me sad and happy at the same time.  Sad, because I would never wish this drama on anyone.  But happy because there is a special bond that Infertiles share and finding one more person to share with is unbelievable.

There's a knowledge that we have that someone else, even many of our husbands don't get.  There's an ache that is difficult to put into words.  Only an Infertile can understand the language that other Infertiles speak, and show with their body.  The smile that we give when a friend tells us they are pregnant, despite the pain that is happening within.  Let me reiterate, there is never a hate for our loved one that has revealed they are preggers.  There's just a resounding "why not me?!" that happens without us even thinking about it.  There's verbage that you don't have to explain to everyone else that an Infertile understands.  There's just a special bond.

There's a couple folks that I have reconnected or initially connected with due to our similarities with Infertility.

Volleyball Queen - I love you lady and can't WAIT to see you next week at North!

Busted Kate - My Kate - there aren't words for my appreciation of you in my life!  See you at Race!

Amanda - I think of you often as we get close to IVF and you give me strength!

And a real quick note about Grey's Anatomy (if you haven't seen Thursday's episode, stop reading now, I won't be offended!).

Callie and Arizona are in a car accident which throws the whole episode into the musical episode that everyone is talking about today to save Callie and the baby.  Callie is pregnant for those of you who don't watch Grey's and Arizona is her girlfriend.  So of course lots of dramatic moments throughout the episode, but the one that brought me to tears was Meredith and Derek (McDreamy) - they've been trying to conceive for quite some time and moved on to infertility treatments - in the elevator where Meredith can't control her emotions and the things she says are things I have thought.  "Why could they get pregnant without even trying?  Why not me?  What is the Universe coming to?" etc.  It makes us feel broken.  And yes, I realize Meredith is just playing a part, but the words coming out of her mouth are truths that Infertiles feel.

Again, I love when Infertility is shown in Modern Media.  And here it is again.

I hope you all have a great one and will talk to you next week!

1 comment:

  1. Meredith could have taken those words straight out of my journal.

    Hang in there!


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