I have been thinking about this for a bit this morning. Given all the craziness that Tucson has ensued, how do you "do it right"? I feel bad for the parents of what's-his-face-maniac-shooter (I refuse to utter his name). Some would say you couldn't see this coming, but what about the skull bbq in his backyard?! Anyway! Enough about that.
What really makes me wonder is the families around me and mine. I am an only child. Therefore, I have no knowledge of blood siblings. I've taken adopting my friends as my siblings, and mostly sisters at that. But the ones I have "adopted" have really good relationships with their siblings. And I don't know how you get that. I see families where siblings barely speak to each other and even at holidays it is difficult to get along. What happened there that blood siblings can't stand each other? In many cases it isn't even one specific, tragic, event that has led to the non-relationship. So how do you prevent this?
In one specific case I know of, the children were raised by the same parents and one is seemingly off in the boonies, while the other is perfectly sane and hardworking. What happened there? How do you raise a child to be a good person? I know the parents of this scenario and they are wonderful people. Loving. Trustworthy. Money-conscious. Sane! So what happened that these traits didn't transfer to the one child?
Does anybody have any magic potions that I am not aware of? I do realize the families with seemingly beautiful relationships have their issues, but they seem to rebound without tragedy. So how do you do that? How as a parent do you create that?
Sorry this post isn't terribly funny, but just wondering how I make good kids. I admit first I have to figure out how to make children, but after they are born, then what? Any advice is appreciated!!